Updated: Feb 2
The Duchess of Cambridge released a video message to mark children’s mental health week
“And while this is Children’s Mental Health Week there has never been a more important time to talk about parental wellbeing and mental health too. Last year you told me just how important this was that many of us find it hard to prioritise. This is a hugely challenging time for us all so please look after yourself too. Find those ways in which to share your thoughts and your feelings or find someone to talk to because we really do need to be the very best versions of ourselves for the children in our care.”
I could not agree more. Most adults still have a broken child inside.
They are also afraid to tell their loved ones that they are going to therapy.
Is it a ridiculous idea to be a happy, confident, relaxed person?
Your family can always benefit from a stress-free, happy, and relaxed you. When you are thinking of your self-care you are taking care of your family because how you feel and act has a huge effect on your loved ones. Children learn from examples, not from lectures.
When I will be a parent I want my children to be proud of me, I want to show them that I have tried everything to be a better version of myself. I want them to think that I fought to achieve my goal, walked through my fears, did not listen to the No-Sayers. I want to be their role model.
Mentally abused children and adults will:
· Constantly apologise…because they’re used to being criticised excessively
· Hide their feelings….because they’re used to being blamed for them/having them discredited
· Breakdown during small disagreements…because it’ll trigger a flashback to a time when their abuser exploded out of nowhere.
· Need a lot of reassurance…because they’re used to being constantly told they’re not enough
You are not responsible for the traumas and abuse you received in childhood and early age. However as an adult, you are 100 % responsible for fixing these issues. It is possible to “upgrade” that child.
Hypnotherapy and solution-focused talking therapy enable you to connect and communicate with your inner child via accessing the subconscious part of your mind. It is a harmless way that promotes relaxation and insight. You can befriend, embrace, champion and heal that child. By healing that wounded child inside you liberate yourself. You get rid of the “vicious cycle”.
As a therapist, I do not need to be aware of the details of your trauma in order to assist you to heal it. This is the great benefit of the solution-focused method. I only need to be aware of the fact that you are ready to let your problems go. We are not digging up old wounds, we are not talking about the issues, we are simply focusing on the solution.
You can read more about this method here.
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